You have to have an opinion.” If you are told, “Speak up,” and you are unable to say anything, people will interpret this as meaning that you have no opinion, because they make decisions for their own convenience.
So you really have no opinion? That is not the case.
Most people I have healed say, “I don’t know how to say this, so I spent some time thinking about it.
It’s not that they don’t have an opinion, it’s that they don’t know how to say or talk about it.
I’m thinking, “How can I speak in a way that they can understand me?” while you are thinking, “How can I speak in a way that they can understand me? The other person will get impatient and say, “Enough!
As a result, situations arise in which people assume that they have said something even though they have not.
If the other person says nothing in response to an opinion about something, most people take that as an affirmation of that opinion.
Isn’t it strange that just because you can’t express your opinion out loud, your position and situation become more and more disadvantageous? Unfortunately, as the term “tacit understanding” implies, not saying anything is taken to mean that you understand the situation.
There are a surprisingly large number of people who feel as if they have no place in society simply because they cannot express their opinions in this way.
But people who have not had the opportunity to express their opinions since childhood will not be able to do so immediately.
So I would say as a first step to be able to say
He says, “You don’t have to force yourself to use words when communicating your thoughts. Rather, if you are asked for your opinion, you should be able to tell them first whether you agree with it or not, just yes or no.”
Everyone looks at me with a “What? faces.
Because just saying yes or no to an opinion makes it easier for the other person to smooth things over.”
But surprisingly few people who understand the meaning of what I said here are those who grew up being called selfish.
